Yesterday was Tuesday, tomorrow’s Thursday so that must mean today is Working Mommy Wednesday!!
This week Julia and Lisa want to know:
Are you the Mom you thought you would be?
Oooh…we’re getting deep today!! I’d like to think that where it really matters, I’m the mom I thought I would be. I’m not the helicopter mom that won’t let her little one get dirty, get scraped up, or make mistakes here or there. On the other hand, at the tender age of 19 (almost 20 *gasp*) months, I’m very proud of how obedient and well-behaved Brooke is. She has boundaries and expectations and I’m hopeful that we will be able to maintain this into her teenage years!!
One area where I stray from the vision my 6-year old self may have had would be the fact that I’m not a stay-at-home mom. My mother stayed home with us and that’s what I’ve wanted and will always want for my children. Unfortunately, that’s not a reality for us but we make the most of it. What I lack in quantity of time we are together, I try to make up for in the quality of our time together. The housework suffers (you do NOT want to drop by unannounced) but I’m hopeful that when Brooke is older and starts to remember her childhood she knows there is very little I wouldn’t drop in an instant when she brings me a book to read, game to play, problem at school, etc.
I think its very easy to have grand ideas of motherhood before it is thrust upon you. I was 100% convinced that I was going to make baby food for Brooke. A couple days after she started solids, I was stocking up on stage 1 food at the store when the reality sunk in that it was not going to fit into our schedule. I was going to excluisvely breastfeed but Brooke went to the NICU at birth and they gave her formula and that snowballed into a whole host of problems. Things change, my parenting style has evolved but one thing remains….the love I have for that little girl is more than I could have ever imagined!!!
If you’re a blogger, write a post about how close you are to the mom you wanted to be and link it up at Julia’s blog. And if you’re not, I’d love to hear what you have to say in the comments.
yes, things do change!! our parenting styles and life make us adjust at the spur of the moment. i never in a million years thought i’d cloth diaper… and here we are. I never thought i would breastfeed… we did for 6 months. i never thought i would do certain things and here we are. motherhood is strange. but the main thing… we love our kids more than anyone ever could.
Motherhood has been nothing but a challege for me. After having 5 nieces and nephews I thought it would be a piece of cake and it hasn’t been!!! Adapting to having a baby around was rough and I honestly hated it, but as Addi’s gotten older I’ve become more comfortable as a mother and have enjoyed all my time with her. I’m even more laid back than I had thought I would be now that she’s older and I’m lucky to have a sweet, well-mannered little girl.
Hi! Well, I posted in your journal but when I was a kid I pictured being mom to 4-6 kids who looked like a picture from the JC Penney catalog (living in a home of catalog furniture!). I had no idea I would cloth diaper but it makes sense in retrospect because I’ve always been very environmentally conscious since early childhood. 🙂 I’m thinking of homeschooling them which is a complete surprise. But all in all I have no regrets except that I only have 2 out of my 4-6 kids and might not get the rest of them… LOL.
Hi – I’m new here and visiting from WMW. I too wanted to make home made baby food and I was so stoked about it! I bought a kit which was in the end a dumb idea because every recipe was exactly the same – steam the food until it’s cooked through, puree it and freeze in ice cube trays but it had lots of pretty pictures. Anyway, my daughter refused to eat every single thing I made! She’s been a very difficult eater and we’ve had to change many of our “expectations” of ourselves as parents because if her! She’s almost 2 now so I guess our girls are close in age. Would love to see your tips on obedience, we are “working” on that one!!!
You are a loving mom, sarah. I am sure brooke is loving being with you and all of the social interaction she has at daycare. She looks like one happy baby!
I always envisioned that I would be a working mom like so many other women. I always thought I would hate being a SAHM and want to be out in the working world. I also always figured I would be a formula feeding, jarred baby food kind of mom. Now, I have been a SAHM for 18 months, made all of Braeden’s baby food, in the very beginning, until it became too much with all of the traveling we did and exclusively pumped for 8 months. I have loved every second of it and wouldn’t change it for anything in the world.
I always knew I would have kids, but the only thing I ever envisioned was that I would be a SAHM like my mom. I am a SAHM and am surprised at how easily I adjusted to motherhood. I had always been around kids, being the oldest of 21 grandkids(#21 being born 2 weeks after Keira). I made all of Aidan’s baby food and plan to for Keira. I use(d) gdiapers with Aidan, but it doesn’t look like I will be continuing to with both kids. I BF Aidan for 10 1/2 months and ended up stopping(Aidan also started to wean himself) when I found out I was pregnant with Keira. Adjusting to life with two kids under two has been easier than I expected. Everyday isn’t always easy and new challenges arise. I think motherhood is all about growth and change. I feel extremely lucky, because I have definitely had more easy days than challenging ones. That makes me really nervous because I feel like their teenage years will make up for it! I also said I only wanted two kids, but know I am not sure. It makes me sad to think that Keira is going to be our last baby. We haven’t ruled out having another one. We will see what the future holds.